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Honoring Marital Vows with Complete Fidelity

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Fidelity and physical intimacy is such a sensitive subject. It is one of those things that when brought up can make people feel uncomfortable. But, it is so important for couples to counsel together and talk about it. I have found that when my husband and I talk about these things we are happier and I can feel love for him more. I love that in the reading this week it said  "sometimes its fun, sometimes its comforting, sometimes its romantic, sometimes spiritual, and sometimes its just a willingness to love."  I think these words describe physical intimacy perfectly. We also learned that divorce often can occur over physical intimacy. Some of the solutions that were mention were; seek answers, communicate, and be calm and open about it. I think these are so important in every relationship. I know that when we talk about these sacred matters and communicate with our Father in Heaven about it as well that we can find joy and happiness. 

The Meanings and Blessings of Family Work

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I really do believe that working together as a family can be rewarding and build family relations. From the family proclamation we are taught that, " successful families are built on wholesome recreational activities."  Growing up my family rarely did things together but I can remember all the times we did. Each time we did something together it made me feel so happy and close with my family. Whether it was going to the beach together or doing something as simple as yard work together on a Saturday morning, I loved it! I loved it because I was able to spend time with those that I love. The Blessings of Family Work In my own family life my husband and I don’t have children yet, but we still notice our relationships being built as we do things together. I want to make sure that I do things with my future family and make tons of memories. Whether it's going somewhere together or doing family chores together I want my children to know that we can do those things to...

Fertility Patterns

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It is God's commandment to multiply and replenish the earth. Yet there are so many people who struggle to have families and suffer from infertility and perinatal loss. Infertility and perinatal loss is one of those things that people don’t really talk about. These are things that many people experience yet, no one knows people are going through it. In the article titled "Coping with Grief in Perinatal Loss" it says,  “Perinatal death is tragic, but there are many ways of coping. There is no one method that is perfect for everyone. Your bereavement process can be as unique as you are. We hope that you will be able to find a source of comfort and healing that works best for you, and that someday you will be able to face the future with peace and hope.” I have experienced this in my own life. I recently had a miscarriage and it was really hard for me and my husband. We felt discourage and somewhat lost. I think the one thing that helped me to overcome this was knowing t...

The Eternal Family

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"The family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children...  IN THE PREMORTAL REALM,  spirit sons and daughters knew and worshiped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize their divine destiny as heirs of eternal life" (Th Family a Proclamation to The World). I am so grateful that we have eternal families. As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints we believe in the plan of happiness. This is the plan that Heavenly Father set forth for His children to return to live with Him again. Families have been around since the beginning. We all existed first as spirit sons or daughters to Heavenly parents.  I know that I can live with my family again. I know that because of the atonement of Jesus Christ I can be forgiven and made clean to enter into the presence of God. Presiden...

Mothers

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Mothers are truly remarkable. They do so much and expect nothing. The Family a Proclamation to The World says: "Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children." Mothers have a natural need to care and nurture children. Heavenly Father made woman loving, caring, patient, and so much more. These amazing qualities are what make mothers so great at what they do.  The country singer Luke Bryan wrote a song called "most people are good" in his song he says,  "And most mama's oughta qualify for sainthood" Isn't that the truth! Mothers are amazing. The first presidency statement in 1942 declared:  "Motherhood is near to divinity. It is the highest, holiest service to be assumed by mankind. It places her who honors its holy calling and service next to the angles." I don't know where I would be without my mother. She is always there for me when I need her. She listens to me and talks to me. I ca...

Parenting with love

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Coercion is defined as " the practice of persuading someone to do something by using force or threats". Parents sometimes use coercion as a method of parenting.  Coercion is compelling others to act or choose in a certain way. Coercive parenting is a very tempting way to raise and treat children. Parents often think that it creates expediency and efficiency… they get what they wanted immediately… it must have worked. It gives parents the sense that their child is obeying them, so they must be doing the right thing because their child is complying with them. But, I can tell you right now that this is only an image and is actually not working at all. Coercion creates only short term compliance. In return the child will retaliate and want to leave the environment, or they will counter coercion by doing the things they know they are not supposed to be doing to get even. I think the best way for parents to get past the temptation to coerce children is by understanding t...

Turn towards one another

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I love the idea of turning towards one another. I think this is so important in every marriage. I have found comfort in knowing that I can turn to my husband anytime there is a trial or even when I'm just having a bad day. I find so much love and peace knowing I have someone who cares so much about me and wants the best for me.   D&C 64:33 "Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things proceedeth that which is great." In the book "successful marriages and families" it talks about how important it is to stay connected in the little ways. These little ways can be as simple as picking up his shoes and putting them in his closet. I have found that when I do things for my husband I feel more love for him and find myself really caring for him. I want to know more about him so that I can do more of the things that he loves.   “Once your marriage gets set at a more positive level, it is hard t...